What Happens Next
Divorce is a complicated, emotional process. The old cliche about communication being the key to any relationship has never been more true than in a divorce. If you know a particular aspect of the divorce is going to upset your spouse, let them know in advance - give them time to digest it, take it in. Surprises are hard to deal with, forewarning them may ease some of the tension.
If you and your future ex-spouse can deal with each other fairly and honestly, the details will follow easily. An amicable divorce is possible and is so much easier on the spouses.
And if you have children, you will always have them in common; hopefully, enjoying all of the different stages and events of their lives, together, yet separately. Providing them with good examples of intelligent, thoughtful planning and communication will help them to mature into adults of whom you can be proud.